Friday, September 4, 2009

Why My Men Are Important To Me

Late in the night, peaceful that the DH has reached his destination finally, I am finally able to do the post I have been wanting to, since last evening.
To say I am a happy person, would not be a very accurate statement. I have a happy disposition, but I also have a always-in-a-rush-never-relaxed mindset, so you cannot call me completely happy. I get upset easily, as I do get angry and hyper, while the DH (and hopefully the BB too) is my complete anti-thesis. He is hardly ever stressed out or worried, never rushed, he drops activities or even chores, if he feels like just lazing around and sleeping. I get all worked up about the things that need to be done, and so I neither rest nor work. And such things always lead to my getting all upset, because he is not up and about and doing things, while I am so tensed up about even the silly household chores. I want to reduce my stress levels and relax like he does, but I never really succeed.

And then when I end up wondering about all the ways in which we are complete opposites, and how did we fall for each other in the first place, there comes up a situation to tell me, just why it happened, and how much I need to be with this man. Yesterday we did our groceries in the evening, and got back home, looking for a parking spot. We spotted a nice one, and there was a Jeep there, with a driver, and we knew he was about to move, so we waited. And then all of a sudden, another car just comes up from our left, the Jeep moves, and this one gets parked. We realised immediately the man in the Jeep was holding the spot for the other car. I seethed I tell you. And then this girl got off the car, joined the man in the Jeep and off they went. I was angry, and said he cannot just hold a spot like that. And the DH was so zen, and smiling and saying , "Uski babe hai, uske liye toh parking spot dhoond ke rakhega hi na!"(That's his girlfriend, obviously he would save a parking spot for her). He was so cool and smiling, and I was so angry. And just then I knew if I had a husband, who would get angry at a situation like this too, that would just make it so bad for both of us, and here was the DH smiling and laughing about it, which calmed me down and my temper cooled down within a couple of minutes. Its so cool, having a hubby like him, especially for someone like me, who does not even need a proper reason to get worked up, and this man stays cool even under fire. I so so so need him.

Once back home, the BB had all his toys, colours, books, everything spread on the living room carpet and was making merry, when I had a sudden urge to check his height. I have this wall at home, where I make him stand and mark it with a pencil, and write the date of the marking. So it makes for an easy growth study. So I just took him, and one of his crayons to do the deed yesterday. Seeing me use the crayon on the wall, had his grey cells whirring, and he ran off to draw with it happily on the living room wall. I tried to persuade him not to do it, but then let it be after a while. So there they were happy red scribbles on the corner wall of the living room. Once done, the boy took his water colour box and rubbed it on the wall there to get rid of it, trying to rub it off. When all his efforts went in vain, he simply came to me and started howling. He did not want the mess, it had to go away. He took me to the corner, pointed at the scribbles and continued to howl. Now, this is distemper paint, I don't know if the crayon marking would go. I tried with a wet sponge, to no effect on the wall, but an increased decibel of howling. So I got an all purpose cleaner, sprayed it abundantly on the wall, and scrubbed real hard, and the crayon started to fade. After about a fifteen minute cleaning job I was done. Washed my hand, and sat down on the couch. The BB came into the room, looked at the corner, ran to me and just curled up into my lap. He said thank you to me in the sweetest way possible, by his act, he just hugged me and stayed curled up in my lap for a long long time. I cannot express in words here, how clearly his message touched my heart. He said it so wonderfully without words. Oh! My baby, you so make every effort worth a lot more than it really is.

So I ended the day very very pleased with both the men I have in my life, and knowing that I am a happier, and better person for them being mine.

9 comments:

asaaan said...

It's good to have ying and yang in one's marriage. Good that your dh is there to balance you out.

And BB is too cute!

Sraboney said...

Your post title is misleading...I thought it was about something else...

You should check your son's height in the morning - people are the tallest then...

Passionate Goof said...


Asaaan - I agree. Opposites balance each other out. :)

Bones - About what? What did you think???
Really? The height varies during the day? Thanks for the tip. ;)

Serendipity said...

yep its me only!! youve changed your link i see :)

Shruti SriHarsha said...

soo sooo sooo sweeetttttt!!!!!!

D said...

Such a heart-warming post! Whenever I think of how I've married a man whose my opposite in so many ways, I also think of how horrible it would be if he were just like me!

thethoughtfultrain said...

Aww you lucky lady ... :-) *putting kaala teeka for the cute family to keep evil eyes away*

Monika said...

BB put a big kala tikka for him haan :D

and agree with asaan good to have ying and yang both.. I guess thast why they say opposites attract

Passionate Goof said...


Serendipity - I thought so!!

Shruti - Thankeeeeeee. :)

D - Isn't it? There would be no balancing or scope for improvement isn't it?

T3 - Thanks. And yes, will do. that is why I have the nimbu -mirchi up on the blog. :)

Monika - Pukka. Nimbu-mirchi waise hi daal rakha hai! So true I tell you. opposites so attract and balance each other.