Wednesday, September 9, 2009

I Am A Bigotted Racist..... And Why Not?

When you step out of your house, with or without a child, the perception of you varies widely. I have experienced it, in ways that have surprised me after becoming a mother. Unknown people will smile at me, help me, or just generally be nice when I go out with the BB. I have always smiled and cooed with babies I have met in malls/shops or streets. I enjoy being with babies, way too much, so maybe it was just me. But the BB came along and I realised that people are usually nice to babies, at least in India they are. I can go on to my theory of positive and negative energies here, and tell you, that people love babies, because of the absolute positivity that flows out of their innocent, precious souls. But I will let that be for now.

When we go out, and people play with the BB, I just let it be, some one would just run their hand through his hair, or just touch his cheeks as he runs around, and I let it be, because I see them as gestures of love. And I know for sure that had I been living in India, these happenings would be a lot more frequent and more vigorous. This place however is crazy land. To explain the title of my post, I am sick of the Arabic women in scarves, their rude, ill mannered, and disgusting behaviour. The men not so much, because I have come across nicer ones more than the mean b****** the women are. But the women are invariably the ones one should be aware of and ignore and avoid. I am still to really lose it, and abuse them in the face once, but I have definitely have had enough of their disgusting behaviour.

They either feel they are a higher race, are supremely arrogant, plain fools or just uncultured,uncouth louts unfit for civilised society. Whatever it is, they are all equally disgusting. And if saying that makes me a racist, so be it, but I stick to my opinion. This place is know for its racism, They literally adore anyone in white skin, and treat the rest with disdain. Even raffle coupons at malls, need your nationality in its details. I wounder how my nationality affects a lottery result, or their ability to inform me, in case I win. Oh! And when the DH returned from his Australia trip this time, he received a very warm welcome at the immigration, with smiles and wishes, something that never ever happens when traveling to or from India may I say. Coming back to the issue, I hate these women, and now follow a blanket rule to be simply blind to them.

Coming from India, where people are exceptionally warm to children, the initial experiences here, really put me off, till I realised that these women are bred to be such fools. Just the other day, we came back home in the evening, and entered the reception of our building. There stood a woman in a scarf with a man, and a child of about two in a pram. The BB being, what he is, ran to the kid. I smiled at the woman, as usually parents mutually do, and the expression on her face put me off so bad. I wondered if she was worried the BB might hurt the kid, so I pulled him away, and the BB enthusiastically waved a bye to the kid, and kept turning back, while we walked towards the elevators. I too said bye, to join in with him, and turned back, and it was then that I saw the expression on that b****** face that actually pissed me off. I just walked away of course, and was happy at not having reacted, and been a bad influence for the BB, but if I had the power I would have clubbed her head. Not just her, but all those women like her, the ones in scarves.

I have had so many such experiences with these women, that I really wonder if they are worthy of civilised society, have they been brainwashed, or are they just that way? I have not met one, and I say this clearly, not one single Arabic woman with a shred of decency. Living here has tarred there image in my heart forever. Never again in my life will I look at these women free of prejudice. For that matter I hope I never see much of them. I hold a strong dislike and bitterness against them, and I have good enough reasons for doing so. I never believe in generalising, but at some point, where I have had enough experiences of similar kinds, that is the only way to face what may lie ahead. I don't expect everyone out there to come cootchie coo with my son, but being mean and making faces to a child, where do these people get that from? Just want to ask, what did you mother/father/culture teach you?

Maybe they are filled with misdirected hatred, or are brainwashed racists, or whatever else, I have no good thoughts for these women nor a desire to give them an opportunity to prove themselves better in anyway, left in my heart. I have made my judgment, and I am sticking to it. And while at it, I am passing on some free advice too, stay away from Arabic women in scarves people, they are uncivilised, rude and simply disgusting. Will I pay them back in their same coin, maybe not, because I don't want to be what they are, but I really don't know how to explain this to the BB, without tainting his innocent soul. Oh! A world this prejudiced and hateful does not deserve these innocent little babies, it just simply does not. I wonder if those women actually train their children to be just as prejudiced and hateful too. And how is it even possible to be rude a child is absolutely beyond my comprehension.

19 comments:

Just call me 'A' said...

you are reallyyyy ranting :)....i can feel the disgust in your words. let it out...breath GM breath :)

racism exist everywhere GM..just some places are more apparent than others. don't we in india treat white skin better than we treat our own people sometimes? But I'm sure your ranting is justified because you've seen the worst in them. Maybe they are like that because they themselves have faced bitterness and hardship and discrimination. our behavior to a large extend our governed by the environment we grow up in. I guess those women have grown up in a very oppressed and discriminating environment.

soin said...

i can only pity the scarved lady's kid..maybe they are like this is our place and we own it.. you are just here to make a living..looking down..how does the age matter if they have such attitude..

Sraboney said...

Ah, the sour topic of racism...Since you say the men are better maybe the women are just bitter (and jealous) because of the lives they have to lead?

Racism exists everywhere and Indians are probably the biggest racists...I guess one has to deal with it...Since you are a guest in their country and there to make a buck, suck up the anger and let things be...I know it can be hurtful but just remember you won't be there for ever...

Sania said...

Some rant what? Am surprised by the intensity of it.

Just wondering - don't take this amiss, why would you still stay there - wouldn't it affect BB? Didn't know things were so bad in your neck of the woods.

mummyjaan said...

Wow, GM, that was something. Very, very angry post. ("I would have clubbed her head"). *gasp.

Passionate Goof said...


'A' - I agree racism exists everywhere. And I am not sure how these women react to 'white' kids either. But I cannot believe that people can be rude to kids, its unbelievable to me. Are Indians rude to young kids too, whatever the race, if yes, I am totally ashamed of that.

Soin - Trust me I pity those kids too, imagine the hatred they are growing up with. Poor kids, really!

Bones - Possible, but being mean to kids? Is that even possible? I agree that Indians are big fat racists, no doubt. I have a 'firang' SIL, trust me I know. But being rude to kids, is something i just cannot deal with. I cannot survive here forever trust me.

Sania - Trust me if someone is mean to the BB, it hurts a lot more than anyone being openly hostile to me. I maintain relations with people I don't quite like, just because they adore the BB. So yes, I am pissed. I am not going to be here for too long. Trust me. Definitely not bringing him up here.

Mummyjaan - I know, I am so angry! I just don't want to do it in the BB's presence. Else I would do it too, trust me.

hitch writer said...

Making a lemonade !!

care for one ??

Solilo said...

GM, I have no experience with such women so I can't comment. May be they are just so fed up of their caged life. May be they don't know better. May be they have only seen/taught that much.

We learn from experience, from mingling, from being a social animal. These women probably don't have the freedom so have no clue on how to react to strangers.

I know that even in India, there are many people who don't allow others (including kids) to touch their babies.

GM, Next time you see such a loony..IGNORE. Don't smile at all!

Anonymous said...

PG, Take that lemonade! It will make you feel better :)

Hugs girl! :)

Totally understand your POV... how can anyone be rude to a kid/baby is beyond my comprehension!!

But, you know, even I have heard this from another friend and he was pretty much disgusted about the whole thing as well!!

Hugs!

(I am unable to log in with my google account, so leaving this comment as anon!)

-Pixie

Rakesh said...

I know what you're saying. My trick is that before Yuvaan can go close to her child, I pull him back and ignore her child and her as well. Just as she would ignore mine :)

Unless of course, I hear her call out my son - that is when I look at her and smile :)

Passionate Goof said...


Hitch - Yumm! Yes for sure. that is my favourite drink btw.

Sol - Possible, and that is what i thought all this while. But whatever it is, they live in a society, and not in isolation, so basic manners and decorum is a must.

Pixie - I hope hitchy send s it over. :) I guess the crazy scarved women are the same everywhere.

Rakesh - I thought you will totally beat me up on this post, about writing anything bad about this place. :P But those women. Ufff. I just don't want to teach BB to dislike others, and hence I stay shut. And I really do pity those women really really do.

Happy Kitten said...

thought they were better in Dubai.. here in Kuwait we keep a safe distance from them while I think they are okay with kids.. but I would not bother to touch their children since one cannot predict their reaction.. but I have seen Arabic women slap babies on their face and was shocked! it is mostly the uneducated ones...guess they have been brought up the hard way and they dont know how to act normally..nd also most of them are ignorant and dont know the world beyond their scarves...

Smitha said...

This is so sad, GM! I can't imagine how somebody can be racist or cruel or rude to a child! It is something beyond my comprehension..

Here, that is one thing I love - everybody is so friendly when you are with a child.. They go out of their way to be helpful too... What makes it even more difficult to understand is how women can be rude to children! It's shocking to say the least.It must be their own suffocated lives that make them behave like this.. but still - to vent your frustration on a child.. I guess all you can do is steer away from such women..

Hope you are feeling better having vented it all out..

Mystic Margarita said...

I haven't come across any of these women, but it seems to me that they're probably bitter about their place in society. Or maybe, they just don't know any better. Which again is no justification to be rude, specially towards children.

hitch writer said...

here you go...

http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3183/3040949854_5fece63ffc.jpg?v=0

Passionate Goof said...


Happy Kitten - OMG! But then slapping is a specialty of Indian parents as well. I have learnt my lesson well now, and will just stay away.

Smitha - That is exactly the kind of disbelief I had, and felt it was just the random people the first few times, but am quite sure its an issue with the community now. :( I stay away very happily now.

Mystic Margarita - Exactly, that is no justification.

Hitchy - That is mean, flicks is blocked in my part of the woods. :(

Happy Kitten said...

I agree that Indian parents also slap but I have not seen anyone slap a baby and that too on it's face.... I think most of us start our slapping once the baby has at least started to walk and talk like a grown up:) but never on the face...

Passionate Goof said...


Happy Kitten - Trust me they do. i am not saying all of them do, but some do, and those kinds of parents are everywhere, in Western countries the laws keep things in check that is all. But whoever does it, that does not make it acceptable, it is just disgusting.

Iya said...

hey, why bother so much. apply the universal rule and IGNORE them. i havent come across any personally so really cant comment but all i want to say is that dont bother urself for someone who absolutley has no place or value in ur life !! smile!!