Monday, December 14, 2009

Ill At Grandma's

OK, so the BB is not doing too well. He resents his medicines strongly and absolutely denies having them without vehement protests. I hated those syrupy things doctors prescribed for me, when I was a kid, so I quite sympathise with his situation, but I also need to see him healthy, happy and at present, most importantly, fit to travel. So that means a huge amount of restraining and forcing goes on each time a dose of medicine has to be administered. And no matter, what, the final decision on whether to ingest the unpalatable syrups or not, lies with him, and he promptly spits out whatever is forced into his mouth. The process has left me with bitten-off fingers, and a very very resentful mother-in-law, who would continue to delude herself into believing that anything that makes her precious grandchild cry, is paramount to criminal behaviour. The fact that she holds down the BB at these times only after millions of my helpless pleas, is something to be grateful about in itself.

Considering the extent of the the BB's infection and symptoms, he was prescribed four different medicines, and strong ones at that, since I was scheduled to travel the very next day. The symptoms subsided, the desire to avoid medicines remained just as strong in the BB, I gave in and almost stopped his medication. I am weak willed that way, and not having the GP around, makes me more so. So what do you think happened? The symptoms made a grand comeback today, and I got shivers when his temperature began to spike. So hurried calls were made to the pediatrician. He prescribed a different antibiotic, and I scheduled an appointment with him tomorrow morning. And yes, I swear by my life that I will continue the medicines, for as long as scheduled this time, no exceptions.

And in the meantime, loads have happened for the BB's illness management, that could only happen here, at his Gamma's place. There has been intense praying, blessings, smearing his forehead with all kinds of holy things like oil, ash and some more. I cannot help but be touched by the fervor with which these gestures are carried out. A family friend went and prayed to Mother Mary, and placed on her feet with requests of making the BB fit and fine. the BB's other grandmother, has been praying at her end, with all kinds of offerings to her Guru ji. And then there has been all kinds of nazar utaarna. For the uninitiated, those are preventive methods, used to remove any kind of negative emotions from others, that might have affected the person, usually a child. Besides all the other types done, today evening, there was a small ceremony, which involved burning coconut shells and some more. People may or may not believe in the effectiveness of these methods, some laugh it off, while many others swear by it and some like me, never believe in it, till they become parents themselves, and then everything becomes plausible, as long as it keeps the precious child safe. But whatever, I am so very touched by the amount of efforts being taken, and all the people involved in it. The BB may not remember the events that have taken place lately, but I am sure the affection which is felt for him, will remain with him forever.

And though the GP is not here, it is tough to manage an ill BB in his absence, especially when the medicines need to be given, I am overwhelmed by the efforts being taken to ensure his speedy recovery, by so many many people.

And for the non-believers, here is an article I found which talks about how the organs in our body are associated with particular emotions, and how negative emotions may remain trapped in the associated organ, and harm the entire body. Though not the perfect fit to what I wrote about in this post, it does give some truth to the connection between mind(emotions) and body.

8 comments:

Mamma mia! Me a mamma? said...

Adding more prayers for the BB's full and fast recovery. Stay strong girl!

Silvara said...

Heya - just came by and realised the BB has been so ill! Poor thing - Lots of prayers for him to get better.

Will hope to see in Melbourne once things are good....take care :)

Sraboney said...

I'm praying for him...

I know what you mean - M too hated medicines till 6 months ago and we had to force it down her throat...She's improved a bit now and anyway, she's too big to restrain...

Passionate Goof said...


M4 - Thanks and thanks again, they are much needed and much appreciated.

Silvara - Thanks a lot. I hope to see you soon too!

Bones - Thank you so much, he so needs it right now. And it is so trying to administer the doses.

Shrutzz said...

Hope BB gets well soon..Prayer's from my side too..

Rakesh said...

Seriously, every time the child falls sick or appears energy less, you wish you would give anything to see him well again... I know that feeling quite well.

Don't worry, he'll be fine with so many of us praying for him and you.

And you seem to be handling all this just fine. You're growing up too :)

D said...

Hey, I hope BB is better now. It's horrible when kids fall ill. It's too much to expect any kind of rational behaviour from little children when they are so ill. I mean, we can be irrational when we're unwell! Take care.

Smitha said...

Good to know that BB is better - I missed loads of your posts - and saw the previous post after I commented on your latest post.

It is amazing how so many measures are taken in India when a child falls ill and even more amazingly, we feel comforted and reassured by it. Even if we, otherwise, would have taken no notice of it.

Hope You both get to fly soon! All the best, GM!