A recent post by Bones, talk about pedophiles, the ones who have the urge to engage in sexual encounters with minors, but do not act upon it. The post talks about,what are the ways of dealing with such people, and what action the society/authorities should take towards it. After reading the post, my mind went on a tangent, and thought of partners who are mentally infidel.
How would I react, if I knew my partner is fantasising about someone else? I am not even talking about a non-sexual affair here, but just pure mental desires or fantasies. Is it acceptable? Is it right? Is it wrong? What if I dreamed of another man in a very physically intimate way, am I cheating on my partner then? I remember a time, when the Internet was new to the world, there was a lot of controversy about whether sexual relationships over the Internet, could infact be construed as cheating on a spouse. So what about fantasising?
I remember reading a long long time ago, in an agony aunt column about a man, who said he thought of his favourite movie star while making love to his wife, and was confused about whether it was the right thing to do, and whether he could in fact tell his wife. How would anyone react to being told, that they are being pictured as someone else, by their partner? Not nicely, I am guessing, but I don't really know. But can that be labelled as infidelity, is it being infidel, just to think about someone else, or even privately fantasise about them? And then is it OK to fantasise about a celebrity, but maybe not about an ex-partner or crush? This just gets so confusing.
While I am sure pretty much no one would be amused to know their partner is mentally fantasising about someone else, unless they themselves are doing the same or worse, and knowing about their partner will just make them feel a little less guilty, but would they count it as infidelity? I have been thinking about it a while, and I know I would be mighty unhappy about it, but not sure if I would count on it as cheating. What do you think?